Are you TOO Single?

I have been single for 30yrs. I guess only 10 of those really count, but regardless, that is a long time. And I must admit that if you go through your 20s single and especially without a roommate, you tend to get get fixed in your ways.

The same thing happens if you are divorced and wait a while to be remarried. My father has been divorced since I was 12. After 18 years you know how you like things and no one else really comes into the equation. It makes it harder to find someone because that daily compromise concept is not fully explored.

I hadn't really thought about this in relation to ME until I came across this tidbit:

If you've been single for a really, really long time, you might be at risk of being too single. While there's nothing wrong with being single, it does come with its share of risks.

1. Inflexibility -- Without anyone else to plan around, people who are too single do what they want, when they want. They become inflexible.

I am not totally like this, but I do have a friend that is. She will remain nameless...

2. Less Maintenance -- With no one to impress, those who are too single can go days without doing their hair and weeks without shaving their legs.

So the humidity was bothering me and I didn't do my hair for a week, until today...reading this motivated me.

3. Super Independence -- Super singles can get to be super independent. They take care of EVERYTHING. Having an "I can do it" attitude is good, but doing it all might be keeping someone who's too single from finding someone. (Being a damsel in distress can actually be a GOOD thing when looking for a guy.)

So maybe I should have leaned on a guy to help me with my toilet (see below), but on the flip side, I figure if I am going to be single for the rest of my life, which is always a possibility, I need to be able to take care of myself. Right?

That said, I am going on a date tonight, and maybe the TOO SINGLE thing is part of my motivation to get out there...

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Pimple be gone!

Pimple be gone!

It has been coming all week. I felt it, even saw hints of it. But now it is here! I have a pimple! An obvious pimple on my face between my chin and lip. Isn't there some rule that when you turn 30, you no longer get pimples? Should there be if there isn't.

I rarely get pimples, but when I do, they are big and noticeable. I mean it's a white spot on my otherwise dark skin! 
I have been diligent about NOT popping them. I read enough girl magazines growing up to know that is the worst thing you can do.

I remember numerous times over the years when  my mom would urge me to pop it. "Just pop it Roxanne!" She would say. She would even try to pop it when I wasn't paying attention. Of course my mom NEVER had a pimple until she was in her 30s. She has amazing skin. I digress.

But last night and this morning, I desperately wanted to pop this thing. It is all I see when I look at my face. I mean seriously, go away already...


(My pimple at 4:45am today)

Do you pop your pimples?

Pop it Baby!

No, let the pimple ride it's course.

Select your option and vote!

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The Smell of Love?

I will admit I am a classroom girl. I thrive in school. Give me a textbook and I will master a skill. Give me directions and I can put a bookshelf together. Let me figure out the formula, and I can figure out a logic puzzle, like Sudoku.

Maybe this is why I find romantic relationship dance so frustrating. I mean I am yet to find a set book of 'rules' that I can pick up and apply. And I am all about seeking experts to give me guidance, input, or advice on how I should handle a relationship with a specific guy. But honestly when you are dealing with two people and all that comes with it, the best expert can't forsee what will be. Yet I still try to find the program, procedure, guide, that will make it all a little less wobbly.

So naturally when I came across this article, I was intrigued. "Two companies, Basisnote and Scientific Match, are developing technology to match couples based on the genetic components of the human immune system -- and their odor."

Apparently people are attracted to those who have an opposite "histocompatiblity gene" then them. What that means? Not really sure, but I think it means what my girl Paula Abdul has been saying for quite some time, "Opposites Attract."

Here's how it works, you order an online test that arrives a couple days later. You swab your cheek and the sample is tested in a machine that tells you a code. Based on that code, the 'experts' know if you are compatible with a person.

Ok seriously? I am pretty sure that if you ask the guy you are dating for a cheek swab, you might as well admit you are on the deep side of coo-koo. Or can you imagine being paired with a guy that a computer told you, you were genetically matched to be with?

As much as I am not into the guessing game, (And I know what those of you who are married are saying right now, "that is the fun part." The guessing game is only fun in the rearview mirror, but we can talk about that another time.) I think I will pass on the DNA sampling.

Back to the drawing board for me...

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I do not wanna Rock and Roll All Night...

Final four baby! And the theme is rock. I think this is a bit of a bummer. When you are down to the last four, I don't think there should be such a polarizing theme. But of course no one asked me. Slash from Guns n' Roses is serving as the guest mentor. He is apparently coming out with a solo CD, which answers Gary's question as to what he knows about vocals. Not sure about the week, but here goes!



Whole Lot of Love – Led Zepplin
It was good rock performance I suppose, but I am sooooo tired of hearing him scream. Seriously. Enough already. I a ready for Adam to go home. My ears hurt.



Cry Baby - Janis Joplin
She did alright. It was solid, but it wasn't the most memorable performance. That said, Allison is coming into her own. Kudos to her!

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So they are dong something different this week. Duets! First up: Danny Gokey and Kris Allen
singing Renegade.

Loving it already! Great harmonizing!
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Come togehter - by Rolling Stars
He was quite the rocker. It has the rock influence but still the bluesy feel. I am proud of Kris. He was true to himself but still rockish and let's face it, adorable!



Dream On - Aerosmith
Surprised that Danny chose this song. He wants to perform. Let's see if his voice matches his desire. Lower register sounds good. Here comes the high note, "dream on!" He did it! Screaming, high note, etc. Showing that Adam isn't the only one who can do that! It was so not his thing, but he went for it.


Duet two:
Slow Ride - By Fog Hat.
Allison and Adam. I think this song is pretty easy (except on the game Rock Band. Ha!) They sound great together.


All in all tonight the rockers proved to be the rockers in their own realm. Kudos to them. Hard to say who will go home tonight. I am thinking Danny or Kris. Sad, I know. Should be Allison, but she is a rocker, so it won't happen.

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Untitled Crawfish Boil

Untitled had its 4th Annual Cinco de Bayou.
It's New Orleans (since Jazz fest is was this weekend) meets Mexico (think fajitas to compliment the crawfish)


This is a close as I would get to them to my mouth...



What is the stuff that is inside them when you crack them open?

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